Mean Girls

Do nice girls really finish last (or is it just nice boys)?

I have a problem - I can rarely accept situations in which someone ends up:
1) Not liking me
2) Hurt by my actions
3) Not interested in speaking to me / seeing me again

Do I have a low self-esteem and a need for acceptance or is it just a result of a traditional European upbrining? Probably both! I always want to "be nice", "play nice", "do nice" etc. etc. etc. Yet, most of the time people's initial reaction of me is as someone who is confident and possibly even a little reserved. So why the need to please?

I think, in a nutshell, I tend to be very sensitive to others' pain. I can't quite pass by people who look distraught or hurt and get sick like a wet cat while watching disturbing films or tv coverage. Yet, there are girls who are simply immune to pain. This brings me around to Surfer Girl.



Surfer Girl is a quintessential "hippie" with every hypocritical attitude attached to it. She doesn't use deodorants, was never vaccinated, doesn't use cosmetics (yet has a very deep and artificial tan as well as sunny hair with dark roots peaking out), or subscribe to the mainstream lifestyle. Surfer Girl is a lover, not a hater, but spreads rumors, is jealous of other girls, and loves to be the main object of everyone's attention.

Why do I sound so critical you ask? In this specific case, it's because THE Surfer Girl in question is attempting to take my interests, passion, life work, and pass it as her own.

I suppose the best answer is to give her my best impression of a "Ruthless B" girl and cut her comments with the truth....or just let it go and be nice. Afterall, mean surfer girls eventually end up at the bottom of every totem poll....